YOU DON'T NEED A WIFE!

When I see some young men tell all and sundry they need a wife, I wonder what they are talking about. Marriage is not for loafers! It is not for a dummy upstairs! Some men are dead in their thinking. They are not sharp, smart, proactive and vibrant! They are dull, reactive, passive, lazy, visionless, dreamless and goaless. These men don't need wives. They need Jesus!

A great husband is alive! Intellectually, socially, mentally, financially and spiritually. He is active on all levels and passionate about life. He has a great vision for his life and he is doing all in his power to get there. He is proactive, hard working, prayerful, energetic, smart, intelligent and brilliant at what he does, he is not lazying around hoping some woman would come to rescue him. He is in charge and command of life! These men command a woman's respect any day any time.

No woman wants to marry a man who doesn't know where he is going or how to get there.
One thing pre-marital sex does for you as a man is, it saps your strength, especially spiritual and mental strength! Most guys who sleep around are dull! I don't know why in the name of God, you must check into the skirts of innocent girls who looks up to you! I don't understand why you will be involved in pre-marital sex and still wants to be great. I am not talking about fake greatness hyped on TV. I am talking about genuine greatness recognized by God that gives you peace and rest!

Prepare to be a husband. A great husband is a leader. You should know what you want out of life. That is when your wife can be a helper to you. Be smart and intelligent. When your wife asks you questions confusing her, you should be able to give her wise answers. Be spiritually alive and active. Have a personal altar which leads to family altar where you act as the priest for your family. Your wife needs you to interceed and pray for her when she is down and weak. Be a leader. She needs to look upto you for direction. Be financially vibrant. Work, save, give and invest. Your wife needs good food, accomodation and clothing to feel complete as a woman. No woman is happy with a stingy man who does not know his financial responsibility as a man.

Respect in marriage is not automatic. You've gotta earn it. Only boys fight their wives for respect. If you have to remind your wife to respect you, it clearly shows you do not deserve it in the first place. You don't demand for respect in marriage you earn it.

Be responsible; be a role model, a leader, a godly man worth emulating and your wife will respect you for it.

Marriage is not a joke. It is not for babies. Prepare well before you get married so you do not spend the rest of your life in disappointment, frustration, shame, pain and regret. God bless you. Cheers!
©Seun Oladele. #copied